Are you having trouble getting information about your kids from your ex? You’re not alone, and you don’t have to rely on them after separation.
Here’s what you need to know:
Your Rights as a Parent After Separation
Both parents usually have the right to get information about their child’s health, education, and well-being. Unless a court says otherwise, both parents should be able to talk to schools and doctors directly.
If Your Ex Won’t Share Information
It’s okay if your ex doesn’t share updates. You can ask caregivers like teachers or doctors for the information yourself. If your ex won’t give you contact info, you may need to speak to a lawyer.
Contacting Caregivers Directly
Tell caregivers you’re a parent and ask to be added to email lists for updates. Most schools and doctors must share information with you unless special rules apply (like if your child is old enough to decide).
If Caregivers Won’t Share Information
Remind them of their legal obligation to keep you informed. If necessary, show them any court orders or agreements. Keep a record of your requests in case there are issues later.
When Caregivers Don’t Have to Share
If your ex has sole custody or if your child is old enough to decide, you may not have full access to their information.
Stay Involved
- Go to parent-teacher conferences.
- Ask for school records or medical reports.
- Sign up for newsletters to stay informed.
Be a Cooperative Co-Parent
Help your ex get the information they need and show the court you’re willing to work together.
